How to turn a bad day into a better day – Gratitude

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Somedays it’s just hard to feel good…

file1701347712205Not everyday can be smooth. Some days no matter how hard you try it’s really hard to bring up your spirit. Maybe there’s no particular circumstance that you are dealing with that is negative. Even if everything on the outside has been going smooth, but something “feels” not right internally. Or maybe there’s a circumstance that you are dealing with is negative but there’s nothing you can do about it at the moment but to wait it out until things get better (injuries, illness, debt, or etc.) So what’s a one way to deal with this type of situation to turn it around and start feeling “good” again? Here’s how to turn a bad day into a better day…Start appreciating…

First step…

dawn-nature-sunset-people-largeWhen you are not feeling good, you are naturally inclined to not appreciate anything but focus on the negatives. But this inclination can be turned around by focusing on things that you can appreciate. But the key is to START SMALL. Do not put a lot of force and pressure on it when you first start. Try to anchor yourself in the moment by taking slow deep breath and look around the surrounding.

Maybe you are living in a small moldy apartment room and there may be nothing to appreciate but everything
about your surrounding makes you cringe. But you do have roof over your head. You have a restroom that you can use whenever you need. You have a place to live that shelters you from cold weather…..Just think about it…Really think about it…before your mind starts thinking about other reasons to stay negative…Having all these amenities makes your life a lot easier than living out in the street…especailly during the cold winter.

Okay perhaps you don’t have a home, and you are reading this from library or some other public computer access. You got up this morning, didn’t you? You had an opportunity to drink water at least to not die from dehydration. You have visions to see and read this post. You have the vision to view all these beautiful shapes that are provided in this world. Okay, so maybe you are blind, and you need someone else to help you read this post. Well, “at least” you have someone that appreciate you and care enough to read this for you….The point is just like there are so many reasons for you to not appreciate anything about this world and your life, there are so many reasons to DO APPRECIATE anything in your life.It requires a small low pressured effort to start and get on with this.

Next Step…

person-woman-smartphone-girl-largeOnce you find something to REALLY appreciate, really FEEL it. Pay attention to how good it makes you feel. Once you start to feel a little good, look for another thing to appreciate about. As your good feelings start accumulating you’ll be surprised how easy it is and how there are so many things that you can appreciate for. It’s like a snow ball effect, it’ll get bigger and bigger until it becomes gigantic as the ball rolls. As you find more things to appreciate, you will find yourself start feeling good and you may be surprised how different you feel compared to earlier on and how quickly you can have that good feeling and it’s all under your own control.

This is also a very good habit to have. Just like anything, with a good amount of practice you can always get better at it. Personally what I like to do is I set aside a time everyday to sit down and write something that I appreciate. But the key is to not force it or fake it. It’s gotta be something that you truly appreciate.

How do you know if you truly appreciate it or not? If it starts giving me a good feeling even a slight bit I know that I do appreciate it and feels good to have that thing in my life.

My Today’s Example…

trees-grass-lawn-park-largeI’ve been bummed out because just recently I’ve sprained my ankle from skateboarding(something that I really LOVE
that I do “religiously” almost everyday) and some other minor issues that’s been bugging me. And I’m typing this as I’m sitting at a local park where there’s a small skate park right next to me. The weather is freezing. And just watching others skate and feeling poopy was not helping me to think of anything positive about my current situation. As I was feeling stressed out about how long it’s gonna take until my ankle heals and worrying about losing all the progress I made from skateboarding so far, I started looking around the park. There was a playground with bunch of excited kids running around and yelling (my 5 year old son being one of the loudest ones lol). And there were trees, grass, fresh air, sound of skateboards rolling and hitting the concrete floor, this nice bench I’m sitting on, beautiful
scenery, beautiful park. A good warm feeling started to flow in slowly. Then all these things that I feel fortunate and grateful for that I completely forgot about started reeling in. It was that simple and didn’t take a long time for me to start feeling so good about life when less than an hour ago I was feeling very down about my current situation.

Your worst day can turn into a good day. It only requires a bit of effort. Try it out!

Please feel free to leave any comments or questions.

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10 comments

  1. Mac says:

    Thanks for your website…had a terrible week and needed some gratitude! Its important to keep the emotions in check and realize some days and weeks will be bad…but overall…the end result will be OK. When you read about what people went through in their life and still came out smiling…that means so can we!

    • Joon Park says:

      Haha definitely!! I love your postivite energy! Yeah it’s easy to be swayed by thoughts and emotions but it’s very important to step back and see the bigger picture of what’s actually happening outside and what’s happening inside. Everything has ups and downs but it’s up to you to wallow in negativity or step back and keep going despite of that.

  2. Lynne says:

    This is really so true and very helpful.
    Something I have found that helps me a lot is to stop thinking about myself and find out what is happening with my friends and family.
    Here are some examples: the week I found out I was pregnant with my first child I was terrified and scared because it was a new relationship and long distance I cried for days. I called one of my closest friends. She told me she just got back from the doctor and she had colon cancer. In a week’s time they were going to remove it.
    How small was my problem? I had the miracle of life in me and my close friend might be at the end of her life and certainly had a long and painful journey ahead of her!
    (She is cancer free now, thankfully!)
    About 3 weeks ago I was struggling with my 2 kids and really thought life was tough for me. I went onto Facebook and found that a lady I knew had just lost her little girl, she as the same age as my daughter (4 years old). It made me realize, having it tough with my kids is just fine! If they are here to make me miserable that is perfect, I could be in that lady’s position!

    Also remember often the darkest hour is just before dawn!

    • Joon Park says:

      This is great!! Today I was feeling like I was under accomplished. I rarely do this but today I was comparing myself with someone that I knew in the past who skyrocketed with success and fame and I had a hard time understanding what made him get so “lucky,” and I put a lot of effort in everything I do and took a lot of risks in my life and feel so under achieved and not as fortunate as him. But then I also am aware that I am discrediting all those less fortunate people who may be suffering through a great loss like you have mentioned. It’s easy to get distracted and lose sight of bigger picture sometimes when you are swayed by emotions and thoughts that may not serve well. Thank you for your awesome comment!

  3. Terrance says:

    Liftingupmysoul is what it says; uplifting indeed. The simple steps you introduced are amazing. It is true, we have to focus on the positive aspects of life even when the day seems full of negativity.

    For me personally I like to read to bring joy to my day. My top readings are the Bible and an author name Ellen White.

    Reading calms my day down totally. Today’s world is so fast paced. And being too past is a negative drift in my opinion.

    Would you say that the law of attraction is similar to true Christianity, were the ancient apostles recommend to think upon positive things, which accordingly to the Christian book, attracts and keeps a hedge of good angel around one?

    • Joon Park says:

      Thank you for your comment, Terrance. It’s amazing that you have a source that keeps you centered and be at peace. Yes, and I do believe today’s world is fast paced and can get rough. Sometimes I feel like it goes against the world’s true essence and nature. But I chose to live in this world and go through this “crazy adventure” and maybe one day I may put it behind and live what resonates with me in the deepest sense. Though, I have read parts of bible but I am not familiar with ancient apostles. But the way you described it does sound similar to the principle behind the law of attraction. I really do think it’s amazing that you found a source that keeps you centered and at peace. I’d like to hear more from you in the future.

      -Joon-

  4. Raphael Ali says:

    The page layout and the images are in sync with each other, but I noticed a lot of grammatical errors, my suggestion would be to read or have someone who’s opinion you trust read and edit it before you re post it. I feel that the message you’re conveying has too much to offer.

    • Joon Park says:

      Thank you for your comment and your advice. Yes I am aware of my grammatical errors. Most of the time when I’m writing a post, I just let it flow naturally as if I’m speaking at the moment. So there may be some roughness or rawness to my article. It’s just my way of expressing what deems true at the moment. But yes, it’s definitely something that I’ve been considering to make it look more refined and less rugged.

  5. Hailey says:

    This actually occurred to me today and everything that you are saying is true. Often times we take things too much for granted. Like you mentioned, if we have a roof over our heads we should be appreciative but often times we are not. I found myself today in a negative place so I took myself for a walk to enjoy the sights, sounds, and smell of nature. Reveling in the small things can really help to change your mood. As well as, if we continue to take everything for granted we will be left with nothing. We have to realize that no matter what it could be worse and we should always be thankful for what we have, while also striving to do better.

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